Is your marriage on automatic pilot? Is your life on auto pilot? You move through the hours, days, months and years without really seeing what’s really going on. You get to where you’re going…….. you arrive at your destinations but what about the journey you took to get there. This is especially relevant to our marriages and family life.
I’m sure if you’re a driver you know the feeling of getting somewhere but not remembering anything you saw along the way or amazed that you arrived without even thinking about it. People call it trance driving. While for driving that could prove to be a real dangerous thing sometimes but for our lives and the people we purport to cherish it can prove costly and devoid of so much meaning. How much of the important times in our marriage do we miss?
Where did all the time go? We often ask ourselves at special events when we are struck with the reality of the years and the changes in people. We see our children all of a sudden grown up. We see the weather on ourselves and our spouses when we look in the mirror or just take a second to look at our lives and the people we love.
I went to a class about communication which urged the attendees to get involved in some time of meditation or reflective process. I’m not one of those who have ever really wanted to get involved in meditation, but was struck with the benefits of taking time out to stop and take a look especially at my spouse and children.
I learned the way to do this was through some deliberate “mindful practice” of interrupting the “trance like travel” that the grind keeps pushing us along the moving sidewalk.
I’ve lived in the Washington D.C. Metro are all my life and I am struck by how much I just don’t see of this majestic and beautiful city which attracts millions of tourists each year. The reason really is I am so caught up in the grind…… I’m on auto pilot.
So find yourself a “Mindful practice” you can do every day whether it’s a meditation practice or one of your own creation.
Take a second to just stand and stare at your spouse and family. They might ask you what you’re staring at, as it makes them uncomfortable. Assure them that you’re taking a moment to interrupt the meaningless grind to relish and cherish the things that are really important to you..Tell them by all means tell them why and how much they truly means to you.
Whether you stop the busy bus to look back or take a meaningful look along the way it won’t be hard for you to realize the true blessings that have been given to you.
Auto pilot switch turned off for this trip now…… Please feel free to enjoy the scenery, clarity, insight and what really matters. Enjoy the sights………..
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