If you’ve done what many do by marrying someone to be your savior, you should a least understand why if your now spending time feeling empty and disengaged. You searched for or found that special someone who will fill all the voids you’ve had and been carrying in your personal baggage. Finally someone to soothe all your baggage which is raging inside you.
If that’s the case and you are feeling disrespected, unappreciated or plain empty because you want to do something for yourself, the good news is you can. The not so good news is people have lots of trouble with change. When someone moves ahead personally some can absorb the impact many other souses are unprepared and unable to deal in a supportive collaborative way.
You can talk about it, plan for it or you may encounter sabotage and control because as you change you unearth insecurities, challenge perceived authority and some spousal partners get really scared and react in a most unfavorable way.
We/You have have a choice in how to go about increasing your share of life’s existential pie. If for instance you can be supportive and help your partner recognize you have some personal goals that you want to pursue, there is room in marriage for this. In fact, this can generate even more room for you to be able to challenge each other feeding positive trends maybe even sexual tension moving the two of you to a new plateau .
One where you both can Dare to be Formidable!
While it’s reasonable to expect our spouses to be supportive and not to making life so much harder than it can be already sometimes, we can’t expect them to fill all the empty spaces in our lives. We have to be our own saviors , relationships founded on expectations of being saved often run into conflict. Finding love and sustaining love means you must be committed to improving and developing yourself.
Find your platform step out and Dare to be a formidable person and get your marriage positioned to be a mutually formidable one as well.
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