A successful marriage requires doing some things for our spouses. One of them is the ability to listen when your spouse loved one tells you they like it when you do something for them. That something could be a collaborative act you do to support or help out..It could be things that you say…It could be your presence felt strongly in their life.
It can be silent, verbal physical but most Importantly it’s something that your spouse really enjoys enough to put out there as a “I Like it when You” are doing something for them that improves their life. Someone else could do the same thing for them but what makes this unique is they like it when YOU, yes meaning you is involved, present and real.
So here’s a thought…Instead of reaching in the darkness to try and please our partners why not embrace the practice of doing something that your spouse actually tells you they like. Not profound but I know you can get some traction from this in your marriage.
So let’s get in the habit of communicating a few “I like it when’s” a week. If it’s something difficult for you to accommodate for your spouse let them know it’s difficult. Perhaps you can do something else meanwhile and keep your eye on finding a way to meet that need.
I like it when you say……..
I like it when we spend time…….
I like it when you touch me Hug me………
and I’ll let you both develop your own list.
It appears to me that a couple who involves themselves in the practice of informative communication will find some or many of their core marriage needs met resulting in a deeper more fulfilling connection with each other.
So try this focused communication exercise out and see where it goes.
I REALLY like it when you’re living in happier marriages! I REALLY do!
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